Wednesday, October 15, 2008


Isn't it weird that as we grow older, we tend to see most of our close friends during K - kasal, B - binyag (ng mga anak) and L - libing (grandparents or parents)? When I was younger, I never thought that I would hardly see my friends when I grow up. I always thought that we'd get to see each other as much as we wanted to. But, as they say, the only thing that is constant is change, and yes, a lot of things changed over the years.

While we do keep in touch, with the help of modern technology from pagers, to celfones and now through YM, it seems that we only see each other during special occasions, and its very rare that everyone's available. There are always one or two persons in the group who couldn't make it. We try to get together during Christmas but last year's gathering did not push through.

There's always a hight probability that all your friends will be there during weddings, but the downside is that the one getting married doesn't have enough time to talk during the reception and often times would just have time to say hello while going around each table. Real close friends would stay for a while, not minding that most of the guests have gone, just so they'll get the chance to chit chat as a complete group.

I went to the baptism of my friend Mark's 2nd child in ParaƱaque last Saturday. Its been a while since I've been to that area. I used to live there and our family left and transferred around four years ago. As expected, most our friends couldn't come because of various reasons. We talked about having a get together once every quarter. Most of our kids are girls and we think that the kids should get to know each other as they grow up, which is one of the reasons why we're planning this. Our wives said that they'll do the planning and all we have to do is do the spending. Personally, I'd rather plan than spend hehe.

I heard that the mom of our friend died a few years ago. This friend has chosen to be estranged from us for personal reasons that up to now, I do not understand. Had we known, we would have one there, but we found out much later. Death is a fact of life and we all go through it and I think that pain and sadness is a bit lessened when one is in the company of close friends.

It is impossible to have gatherings as much as we want to now that most of us have out own families, but I know that we try our best and that's good enough for me. I just hope that the quarterly thing pushes through.

Basta, sagot ko lechon manok hehe!



Vayie said...

Tama ka jan, Bam! Although it could be morbid kung magkikita-kita o magkakasama-sama ang mga magkakaibigan `pag may "patay" o "libing". Knock-on-wood.

BAM! said...

yun lang nga :)

GARET said...

parang ganito nga talaga ang nangyayari... pero sana wag naman kapag may patay.. KASAL na lang or binyag...

psychogoddess said...

I know exactly what you mean. I feel that I've reached that age na rin... this year alone, I've been invited to four weddings (last quarter ng 2008 lang yan!). Next year dami pang nakapila, then ako naman susunod on 2010. It comes with age... :)

Btw, finally saw your comment on my wedding blog. Do you have pics of your wedding posted somewhere? Would like to see pics of Kasalikasan. Thanks! :)

BAM! said...

garet : ganun talaga... mas nakakahiya naman kung di ka magpunta sa patay hehehe

psychogoddes : sunod sunod na talaga yan. tapos binyagan na.

would gladly email you pics. let me know your email addy :-)